a dear friend once asked me,

"what do you want to do with your life?"

yes, cliche I know, but my response wasn't the one I had hoped for. I didn't know what to say. For the first time in my ever so eloquent life, I did not have a single thing to say. Sure my mind was running 100 miles per second trying to come up with an answer that wasn't deemed pathetic but no, I just generalized

"I have a lot of things I plan on doing, there are so many options."

I didn't lie, I just didn't know what exactly I was planning to do, or with what I would start. Living in a lagging lull, I am finally being forced to face the R word. Reality. Why do you have to be so harsh?

Caution: Woman Frustrated

Finally! I am a university graduate! That's probably a good reason why I've been neglecting my blog, saying that I was working my ass off and studying insane hours per day, but no that's not even close, I've been enjoying my last days as a student at university. A place where woman are most often seen to be "smarter" (to be politically correct) than their male counterparts. There have been studies that prove that, it depends on which study you look at, but the point is, woman are seen as more successful because they have good time management skills, can multi-task, and just because they were born with functioning brains; no I'm not trying to go all feminist here. 

How many times have you heard a professor say that the women in the class do better than the men? I've heard that a whole lot! However, you do have women from different nationalities, backgrounds, and most importantly personalities. Not all of them have the "brains", but if they apply themselves they can manage to accomplish whatever they want to. Anyone can. 

Now here comes the situation, my friend is a very smart and beautiful woman, having graduated early from university she went to work in a private company. Some people may look at her once and describe her as a T.K (Typical Kuwaiti), which basically means that she doesn't have to worry about working for a living and lives a comfortable life with no responsibilities. After working there for a few months, she decided to leave to take up graduate studies. When she told everyone at work that she was leaving, they all (managers, colleagues, Kuwaiti & expatriates, both female and male) confessed that they thought that she would be one of those Kuwaiti girls that always come late, never being a benefit to the company and never in the mood to do anything. 

In my opinion, that is kind of harsh! How come in university we were always the ones that had the most promise, never were discriminated or judged, and were a role model to our peers, and that all means nothing the moment we graduate? 

By we, I mean the women I know who have a good head above their shoulders, hard-working, ambitious and self-driven! Will we always be seen in a negative light, since obviously we are the minority. Yes, yes I count myself as part of the "we" and we have to break this stereo type if we want to be taken seriously! 

 

Wild Imaginations Are Not a Thing of The Past

Okay, I'd understand if people have a problem trusting others, but what if they have a problem believing people too?! In all seriousness, this is a seriously serious issue. 

I trust people. It's something that I choose to do and I'm responsible for. Now, there's nothing wrong with trusting the right people, but the thing is I'm starting not to believe a word they say. AT ALL! 

It is unbelievable! A number of people nowadays are professionals at spinning up their own stories, even though they know they can be caught very easily. Do you know how annoying this is? I listen to someone talk and genuinely get immersed into the conversation and become an "active listener"... and then? I find out it was absolute bullshit. Not cool! 

Most of the time, the person talking is just re-telling something that happened, so basically they hear one side of the story (which is fabricated and totally made up) and re-tell it. I don't know whether to cry or laugh! I usually tell a person to double check their sources or just say that they are nowhere near the truth, other times I just shut up to avoid problems. Some people don't like to be told that they are wrong, which is another topic to be handled. So, I just stay quiet, I don't need to stir family problems. Sometimes, I just wish that I don't know the things I know. Other times I'm glad I do because it makes life so much more amusing and I get to internally laugh my ass off. Oh, and the other people who just simple make up stories are another story by themselves. I'm not going to waste my time on them.

If you're going to tell me something, tell me the whole truth and nothing but the truth or shut the hell up! There's a chance you might look stupid, have your ego bruised, WHATEVER, that happens! You're not always going to be the hero!

N.B Telling a one-sided story and covering up the other half is just as bad as telling a lie!

Out of Coverage Area... Don't Try Later

I get extremely irritated when a million stores call me all during the same day, or even in the same hour. Can you imagine how annoying it is ending one call from one hungry seller to get another one calling you the second you put down the phone? Sure, it's not a problem telling them that you don't want to be called... they'd respect that for sure. Anyhow, what if you do tell them that but they keep on calling you? My goodness, it's gotten to the point where I don't reply if I see a number that starts with '51' '52 or '57'... I even started ignoring any unfamiliar numbers all together! 

I can't forget the text messages too. How could I? Everyday at precisely 11 am, I get a text message from our lovely retailers, some of who I am a customer and others that serve a whole other market segment, last time I checked I'm not a preppy guy thats in to fashion that "combines the traditional American style with an European flair" (quoted from the site, will withhold brand name to avoid humiliation)

So yeah, no phone calls or text messages please, if I want to ask about your new collection... I WILL CALL. I will even physically move myself to your store to check it out! I know a lot of people who appreciate these calls and come running to get their hands on the latest items, I don't blame them because the ladies here know that the proverbial early bird gets the proverbial worm. Some even scold the store for not calling them and giving them the sign to give their cards a workout! 

I, however, AM NOT ONE OF THEM :)

To all the stores that I visit and have  my number, I wish oh wish that you would refrain from calling or sending me messages. Yes, I will bear the horrible responsibility of not knowing what's the latest in town but may I suggest that you send e-mails perhaps, or have updates through a site? I really don't feel like ignoring all my calls, or cursing the moment I accidentally reply to your unsaved numbers. (Which I should start saving by the way. Good note to self!)

Fortune Cookies Would've Been More Accurate

How many of you have had your fortunes read? No not the typical reading of the palms or the tarot cards or even through the mystic all-knowing crystal ball. I'm talking about the more sinister, so freaky they could be true, local fortune tellers. Yes, I know that you'll be damned for all eternity if you even think about trying it out, but I just had to for my own curiosity.

Let me just start by saying that it's better not to believe any little word they say because they give you false hope which you pretend like you don't even care about and know it's not going to happen but there's a tiny little shred of hope that says "you never know, it might really happen!"... but guess what? None of it is true and it will never ever happen! Aha, I'm bitter. The one I went to told me that I'm going to meet someone tall and handsome, in a high position by the end of the year. That happened LAST YEAR. So yeah, no gorgeous doctor knocked on my door anytime late last year. Who's the sucker now?

I only did it once, felt cheated and vowed to never do it again. What was really weird is that the lady got every little detail about my family and issues that were happening at the time that  no one knew about. She probably had help from you-know-what. I did the thing where you had to throw shells and coins all over the place and basically some shells symbolized people, coins showed events and stuff like that. It was so random that it was hard to believe that she wasn't making everything up, but the things that she got right were irrelevant like family issues, daily stuff etc, and the things she got wrong all had to do with me; for one, the handsome, tall guy not passing my way. What a way to get a girls hopes up!

The experience was very intriguing to say the least, but I knew that her words shouldn't be taken seriously and never to be believed, so it was more of a kind of entertainment where you just hear a lot of talk but only 20% is accurately precise. So the moral of the story is, if you want to hear about things you already know that are happening in your life, and be given false hope of things that are "supposedly" going to happen soon, then go book your session right now. Just don't be mad at me if your gorgeous doctor doesn't pop up too.

Happy Hunting!

You've all heard about job headhunters or executive headhunters  who search high and low for the perfect candidates that have the most potential in a certain position and try to recruit them to a company. Basically a business version of a matchmaker; but this time they make a lot more money. Don't worry, I'm not going to go into any business babble and bore the living daylights out of you. I'm talking about personal headhunting if you know what I mean. It seems that there are women out there who are headhunters, and pretty good at it too.  

What do headhunters do you say? They scope their territory first, then look for potential candidates, deliberate and decide on one, do a little research and dig up some information, secure the target, and when the right moment comes. BAM. 

One head down. 

So, why do women do that? I've heard a couple of stories that are incredible, you wouldn't believe the scenarios and drama that occur; but in the end, the women always gets what she wants. I must admit it takes strong will and determination to go through all that but is it okay? I've heard mixed reviews about this issue; some say it's the survival of the fittest, others say it's just unacceptable. 

Is it because they feel threatened? Short on time? Insecure? Bored? I personally wouldn't go all through that trouble because: 

a) no one is ever up to my standards 

b) my ego can't handle it

c) I'd rather the guy do all the work

Isn't that how it's supposed to be? or do I have to catch up with the times and work on some bait? 

Relax! That was a rhetorical question. Hunting isn't my favorite sport anyway. 

Tomorrow is Canceled Due To Lack of Interest

Wayfarer wearing, clothes skimping, colorful palette of a face people are

 all around these days. 

I must say that Kuwaiti women are either really stylish or don't know how to pull off a decent outfit if their life depended on it. It's funny that the majority are at either end of the fashion spectrum, and then there are the middle cluster that pass by under the radar, not grabbing any wanted or unwanted attention. But what is of most interest to me is the fact that style is innate, some people are born with it while others acquire it with time plus a monthly subscription to Vogue. This brings me to an important issue I have to address, a burden I have 

to get off my back, which may not come as much of a surprise to some and that is... 

money can NOT buy you style. 

Yes ladies, getting your hands on the latest Dior monogram jeans, jacket, t-shirt and cap in all their hideous shades does not instantaneously make you "stylish". I quoted stylish because style is subjective, everyone has their own style, but becoming a sheep to the latest trends, wait a minute, who am I kidding, Dior monogram anything's should be caged and put in a glass box with a warning sign:

"For Shameful Viewing Purposes Only. Do Not Attempt to Duplicate. EVER!"

Back to what I was saying. Being stylish means having a good idea of what looks good on YOU! You don't need a D&G logo plastered across your chest to look up to date, and sure you can wear it if it looks good on you, but please don't pair it with D&G jeans with the silver tag on the behind. If you do then I suggest you contact D&G; they need to reimburse you for your ad effort!

For all those chic, confident fashionistas... I salute you! I love going out and watching sensibly dressed ladies who know a thing or two about how to create an outfit and pull it off so easily like it was something out of a magazine. You make me feel proud!